Or should we say, “right side up”, because if there’s one thing we’ve gotten backwards on this planet, it’s our ideas about human sexuality. Needless to say, it is a touchy subject– pun intended. Very few people are able to talk about it openly and honestly, let alone use the proper terminology for it — so taboo has all of it been made by us. More therapist rooms than we could ever imagine are surely filled with people whose deepest issues come down to this common core, in one form or another. Yet the fact remains that sexual expression is one of the most natural functions we are capable of as humans — something that, in it’s purest form, is exceptionally uplifting, empowering and freeing — the exact opposite of what many on the planet unfortunately experience it to be.
So, who better to hear from on the subject than GOD? (Don’t be too quick to leave the page — this is not a religious thing—at all.) Conversations With God is the number-one recommended book on our list of essential reading, and the entire original trilogy has a lot to say about everything, not the least being human sexuality. The following quotes are from Book II in the series. As always, ponder them and see how they sit with you. If you find them uncomfortable, remember, true change very rarely comes from a place of comfort.
- …in some cultures—Aboriginal, some Polynesian—lovemaking is done quite openly… These people you call “pagans” have an enormous respect for life. They know nothing of rape, and there are virtually no killings in their societies. Your society puts sex—a very natural, normal human function—under cover, then turns around and kills people right out in the open. That is the obscenity!
- …don’t you find it interesting that a word some of you use in the height of passion to describe great sex, you also use as your highest insult? Does that tell you anything about the way you feel about sexuality?
- Most people have a lot to learn about sexuality, and its most wondrous, beneficial expression… The more pleasure you give yourself, the more pleasure you can give to another. Likewise, if you give yourself the pleasure of power, you have more power to share with others. The same is true of fame, wealth, glory, success, or anything else which makes you feel good.
- The sexually active are no less qualified for enlightenment, no less spiritually evolved, than the sexually inactive. What enlightenment and evolution do cause you to drop is your addiction to sex, your deep need to have the experience, your compulsive behaviours. So, too, your preoccupation with money, power, security, possessions, and other experiences of the body will vanish. Yet your genuine appreciation for them will not and should not.
- Teachers of what you call Tantric sex… know that if you come to sex with a hunger for sex, your ability to pleasure your partner and to experience a prolonged and joyful union of souls and bodies–which is a very high reason to experience sexuality, by the way–is greatly diminished… The mutual self-pleasuring is all part of the joyfulness, the playfulness, the lovingness of sexuality fully expressed. It is one of several parts. The experience you call coitus, or intercourse, might come at the end of a two-hour encounter of love. Or it might not. For most of you it is very nearly the only point of a 20-minute exercise. That is, 20 minutes if you’re lucky!
- All your life you have been taught that it is better to give than to receive. Yet you cannot give what you do not have. This is why self-gratification is so important–and why it is so unfortunate that it has come to sound so ugly. Obviously, self-gratification at the expense of others is not what we’re talking about here. This is not about ignoring the needs of others. Yet life should also not have to be about ignoring your own needs. Give yourself abundant pleasure, and you will have abundant pleasure to give others. The masters of Tantric sex know this. That’s why they encourage masturbation, which some of you actually call a sin.
- You see beauty where you desire to see it. You see ugliness where you are afraid to see beauty. It would amaze you to know how many people see [sex] as ugly.
- The trouble with “propriety” is that someone has to set the standards. This means, automatically, that your behaviours are being limited, directed, dictated by someone else’s idea of what should bring you joy. In matters of sexuality–as in all other matters–this can be more than “limiting”; it can be devastating. I can think of nothing more sad than a man or woman feeling they’d like to experience some things, then holding back because they think what they’ve dreamt of, fantasized about, would violate the “Standards of Propriety”!
- Gay sex? So many people want to say that I am against gay sexuality–or the acting out of it. Yet I make no judgement, on this or any other choice you make. People want to make all kinds of value judgements–about everything–and I kind of spoil the party. I won’t join them in those judgements, which is especially disconcerting to those who say I originated them. I do observe this: There was once a time that people thought that marriage between people of differing races was not only inadvisable, but against the law of God. (Amazingly, some people still think this.) They pointed to their bible as their authority–even as they do for their authority on questions surrounding homosexuality.